Welcome to school! It’s just natural for any parent to feel emotional and scared at this time, much more if his or her child has special needs.
The following five steps have helped me throughout the years as the mother of two children with special needs, and I hope they may help you as well.
- Face your fears.
I’m sure you have lots of questions. Be sure to get answers for them. Don’t ever be afraid or embarrassed to ask. Part of the law is for you to be an active participant of every decision taken for your child’s education; then, exercise your right to know. Keep in mind that your child is protected under the Individual Education Act for People with Disabilities; for this reason, he is entitled to free appropriate public education in the least restrictive environment under an individualized education plan. Don’t settle for less. You are your child’s best advocate.
- Educate yourself.
I’ve been lucky to be surrounded by incredible professionals who have been always willing to help my children succeed; however, something that I’ve learned and understood throughout the years is that my child is just another child in someone’s classroom, but it’s the most important and marvelous one in my heart as a parent.
Don’t leave the responsibility of your child’s success to anyone else. No one knows or loves your child as you do. Yes, sometimes it’s tough to reach an agreement between school and family, but there is no need to fight when you know your rights, and understand that there is always a way to reach an agreement based on the right fulfillment of the law.
- Be open to learn along with your child
My oldest is already 11, and I wouldn’t dare to say that I know everything about the special education process, just because along with the process, my children grow, evolve, and their needs keep changing with them.
Every year I learn something new. It’s hard, complicated, and sometimes extremely exhausting. But it is how it is, and without the willingness to learn, you may get stuck in frustration and/or rage, and that doesn’t help. Keep in mind that your child’s first day of school is your first day of school too. Get excited about future!
- Promote collaboration
Don’t wait for your child’s teacher to get in touch with you. Be proactive and build the connection that will help you and your child get the best of school. Get involved, ask how to help, bring ideas and suggestions to the table. Be a good parent. This is a very obvious advice, but sadly, it doesn’t happen all the time.
- Be sure to understand your child’s services
Your child’s individualized education plan details what services he will be receiving, when, how, and why. Be sure to understand this, to follow up with his goals, and to get in touch with your child’s teacher if you feel something is not working as expected. Don’t wait for your child to fall behind to get involved. To walk along with him or her is the best strategy to help him or her overcome challenges.
May this be the beginning of a successful life full of individual achievements!
By: Eliana Tardio
Eliana Tardío, is the mother of Emir & Ayelén, both with Down syndrome. Named as Best Latino Health Blogger ’13, one of the Top 100 Moms Bloggers by Babble.com, and one of the 7 Most Inspirational Latina Moms by Café Mom. Eliana’s advocacy work has garnered her many awards, not only in the USA, but around the world.